Become a clear, confident communicator

“Communication is the real work of leadership.”
~Nitin Nohria, Dean of Harvard Business School

My role as your coach is to help you become a clearer, more confident communicator.

So I will begin by saying that everything you need to know in order to make a choice about whether to hire me as your confidence coach—about me, the costs, how I work and what you can expect—is written on this page. No long forms to fill in just so you can find out the bottom-line on-line. However, you might want a conversation with me prior to making a commitment. It may prove helpful to you and I offer it for free so there’s a box at the bottom if you want to get started.

Read this entire page and you’ll have a clear idea of whether I’m the right coach for you.

After ONE session:

Confidence comes from within. The Latin root of the word itself, con fides, means with faith. I can help you develop that faith in yourself in the areas of your life that you currently find difficult. This usually means with someone of some importance in your life: your boss, spouse, parent, child, friend, co-worker, or employee.

The common link in all areas of your life is the requirement for effective communication.

And a lot of people do not feel confident having difficult conversations.

All of us have certain areas in which we feel confident and others where we feel less so. In some places, with some people, we have no problem saying what we mean or feel. With others we freeze up or become defensive too quickly, too easily. Or we re-play conversations in our heads, wondering if we said the right thing, worrying that we didn’t. I help you understand why this is occurring, not just what to do about it. You cannot sustain long-term results with the “what’s;” they are maintained with “why’s.”

When you know your ‘why’s,’ you will become wise

“If we are strong, our strength will speak for itself.
If we are weak, words will be of no help.”
 ~ John F. Kennedy

Let me paint an analogy: your life is like a garden. If you want it to be healthy and vibrant you need to weed it every so often. It can appear, sometimes, as though the weed over in one corner is unrelated to the one you pulled up last weekend that grew four feet away. But sometimes those individual weeds spring from a common underground vine; pull up the vine and you can eliminate a lot of weeds all at once—and save yourself a lot of work in the future.

The communication issues, the lack of confidence you experience in a certain corner of your “garden,” is often connected to a single vine, a single harmful belief that propels your conversations places you never intended them to go. I help you dig up that belief “vine,” connect the weeds that sprang from it, thereby enabling you to see the big picture.  That bigger picture is clarifying, strengthening, and freeing.

After working with so many people on such intimate levels I’ve become a diagnostician: I listen to you tell me about your “weeds,” your difficulty. Your words, the phrasing you choose, your intonations, even your silences, are like a verbal x-ray and reveal the location of the vines. After just a few sessions you will be amazed at how much more confident you feel after pulling up just one of them; it’s empowering.

Confusion sucks your energy. Clarity and understanding fills you with the energy and courage to tackle the shackles that have held you back.

After TWO sessions:

Ever had a good intention go down the tube? Intended to apologize and ended up in another misunderstanding?

“The problem with communication is the illusion
that is has occurred.”
~ George Bernard Shaw

Most of us can use a little guidance now and then—nobody’s an expert at everything—and I can provide a structure, a format, and a process that is time-tested and proven to help you achieve your stated goals. I have 20 years of professional, hands-on experience in catalytic change.

One last thing: I don’t believe in cash cows—the idea behind my coaching style is “how soon can I help you handle your particular issue smoothly, calmly and confidently?” Generally, 6—10 sessions is an ample time-frame for a specific issue or pattern you’d like to address. While there is some value in an each-week-at-the-same-time format, you get to decide your own pace. That said, for some clients, an on-going relationship can prove very beneficial. Some people want to keep going at a more relaxed pace on an as-needed basis. One of my long-term clients simply e-mails asking “do you have time today?” when her need is more immediate. I am generally flexible enough to accommodate requests and offer a pay-as-you-go option.

After THREE sessions:

To be a more confident communicator,
you must be a clearer person.

After an initial free assessment conversation we can decide how you want to proceed. Individual sessions are generally an hour in length, however, some situations demand more time; I don’t watch the clock unless you need me to.
There are three ways we can work together:

• pay as you go, session-to-session as needed/desired ($185/ session)
• a package of 6 sessions, generally one session per week ($1000)
• one full day and evening followed by 6 sessions ($2200)

Trust Program graduates or returning clients (after 6 sessions) receive a preferred rate of $150/ session—payments can be made by Visa, Mastercard, Paypal, or e-bank transfer.

After FOUR sessions:.

“Communication--the human connection--is the key 
to personal and career success.”
~ Paul J. Meyer

Confidence springs from the vine of clarity.
Contact me if you want to go digging.

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